Day at the Office

Day at the Office
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I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. - Phillppians 3:14

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Married to an Endurance Athlete...and the Oprah Show

About a year ago Runner’s World did an article about running and marriage…about the issues that can arise by two people…one that runs and trains and one that doesn’t. Training is a time consuming entity…and if one party doesn’t “get” it, then there may be issues. Take on Ultra Endurance training and kick up the time spent alone, running….and all the issues that come with it….throw in kids into the equation and the balancing act becomes infinitely more challenging.

You need to understand….Bren, my wife, works out…quite a lot by some standards….an hour a day for 4 to 6 days a week. But when she looks over at my training schedule, frankly she can’t get her brain around it…why would anybody want to run and exercise for 6 to 8 hours at a time…alone?!? Why does anyone want to run in a 50 mile race…a 100 mile race…to run for 24 straight hours???

We are closing in on 16 years of marriage….and 19 years of knowing each other. It hasn’t always been smooth sailing…we are both pretty strong willed…and like all couples, have had some ups and downs. When I encroached into the Ultra Running and cycling, we both had to feel our way around that too…not to mention with the kids stuff too.

After all our time together, we have began to learn to meet the others needs, even when we don’t understand why….that includes hammering out training schedules, races, plans, goals and dreams. This year I will be scratching off something on my bucket list…with Bren’s blessing. She knows it’s a dream of mine, and even though it will take place Mother’s day weekend, she told me to go…in return I was to pay for her and her mom to take a trip together….looks like a Vegas Extravaganza may happen for those two.

I was sharing all this stuff with a high school friend…and she responded with the following: “I think one of the coolest things about marriage is when you realize that if you support your spouse in the things they love, it makes everything else that much more awesome.” That statement sums it up….Bren and I have far more ups now than downs…and having that support is what makes everything I do on the endurance front all that more special…that I have someone to share my triumphs with….even when she thinks it’s crazy. She said she married me knowing that there would never be a dull moment…she smiles now and says, “Life is never boring on Team Elliott.” I love that.

So that brings me to the crux of this blog…Bren LOVES OPRAH!...Loves her show…tapes it and watches it every night while the kids are in bed. Personally I don't care much for her…but Bren loves her…so there you are. She tried for over 20 years to go to a taping of a show. This past summer…her friend got tickets and took Bren with her. They had a ball. It works like this…if you put in for tickets on Oprah’s site…you are the ONE that has to use the tickets…you can change the guest you take…but if you are “awarded” free tickets for the taping…it’s you….no substitute. So Jen put in for tickets and took Bren. Brenda would always put in for tickets….and then ask her friends to do the same….and of course she would ask me to put in…and I would, knowing that I would never get tickets….never!!! NEVER SAY NEVER! I come in this morning from working out and notice I had an email on my “crackberry.” “Dave, Great News!!! Your ticket reservation request has been selected for the 02/22/2011 A show taping.” Oh joy…really….are they kidding? Maybe I worked out a little too hard this morning and didn’t read this correctly…nope…I read it right. So I did something I never do….woke up Bren early in the morning…We’re going to Oprah….I said “ We’re”….you and me babe…I always have funny and snide comments I quip off to Bren about Oprah…not a big fan…but who cares….my wife was giddy the rest of the morning…and waking her up at such an ungodly hour…she didn’t care. She looks at me and says, if you don’t really want to go…we don’t have to go. Are you kidding…we are absolutely going…not because I want to…but because I love you. Seeing each other fulfill what they have always wanted to do…that is truly one of the great things I have learned in being married to that gal. Oh…I still get to go do my thing this May (heck, this may be worth 10 years of races)…and that was to be my next blog…but this is too good…I get to go to Oprah…(yes there is some sarcasm)..but more importantly…I get to go with my wife…and watch her experience something she loves so much. She has been to more finish lines than not….she wants me to go run far…cycle far…and she explained to me what our marriage meant to her the other day in terms I understand….”Dave, Marriage is for the long haul….an Ultra marathon with lots of ups and downs…..the completion to the finish line is always worth the effort.”

Gotta go…I got bags to pack…we’re going the Chicago in February….to see Oprah….OMG!!! ;-)

Next time we will cover the bucket list item….til then PRESS ON!


krisann said...

Wow, wow, and wow!! Okay, this post made me grin, snicker, laugh out loud and tear up....the big kind of tears. If anybody "gets" marriage, it is you two! How blessed you are to have each other and to recognize the blessing. Some people have that blessing right in front of them most of their life and never see it. Pretty cool how God can give us the perfect spouse, huh? Now.....jumping up and down)....YOU ARE GOING TO OOOPPPRRRAAAHHH!!!!!!!!! WOOOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!!!! I can not WAIT for the post show blog. :) Here's to ultra events and

djstreet said...

One of your best posts! Of course, I'm a little partial because I love Oprah too and the fact that you and your wife seem like an awesome pair, makes it all the better! This really was "gold" in more ways than one. : )

Big Daddy Diesel said...

"She looks at me and says, if you don’t really want to go…we don’t have to go. Are you kidding…we are absolutely going…not because I want to…but because I love you"

that right there is exactly why you are in a great marriage

Jeff said...

Not only are you doing Oprah - you're doing Chicago in FEBRUARY. That's Love.

And Mother's Day weekend bucket list...Miwok?

olga said...

Dave, this is absolutely beautiful. So much love. Wonderful. No more words.

Gotta Run..Gotta Ride said...

You are a great guy!! I am with you on the Oprah thing but sharing this with Bren will be such a sweet memory.

maybe this will be the show where everyone is given a car... a vacation of a you never know :)

Bring on your next post....please ;)

Missy said...

Ofrah, Ofrah, you're going to Ofrah...I hope it's a show on menopause, pads and periods, special for you. Baaaahaha, please send me a reminder b/c I need to tape that shiz. BUT who knows, it could be a favorite things show and you get a lifetime supply of bras and diamond earrings.

Gretchen said...

Beautiful post! Hooray for pushing through, and loving , the ultramarathon of Marriage. Good job you guys! Have fun at Oprah ... hee hee hee!